Following a recent meal and beers with some friends at Block 15, the subject of gratuities came up, as it pretty much always does after you eat at a sit-down sort of place.
For four of us, the tab was something like $86; the two of us teaming up on the paying agreed we'd just leave $100 in cash and let the very nice and helpful server keep the change.
As I do the math right now, that's around 16 percent, which isn't a tightwad's approach to gratuities, but if I had it to do over again, I'd maybe suggest we leave a bit more.
The meal made me think of a dinner I had with three guys at a steakhouse a few years back and our post-meal analysis of tipping.
One fellow said, "I don't eat out that much, so when I do I tip 20 percent if the service is good."
Another said his figure was 10 percent.
"Ten percent?" I said. "That was the going rate like 40 years ago. Myself, I start at 15 percent and if the service is really good, I go up from there."
As the first friend had astutely pointed out, for most people the difference between 10 percent and 20 percent is maybe a few bucks, so why not just tip higher and seem sort of generous? After all, these waitresses and waiters need to make a living too.
Of course, I must say that I'd rather our culture hadn't evolved as it has in regard to tipping; I'd just as soon pay more for the meal and have the servers get paid more, rather than feel compelled to do something -- i.e., leave a gratuity -- that's theoretically supposed to be a voluntarily given reward for exceptional service.
On my lone trip overseas, to Australia, I was on the verge of leaving a tip at a diner when my companion abruptly cut me off. "We don't do that here," he said. "Don't get people started thinking that's the way it's supposed to be."
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